This has been a stressful year. My husband and I have both been dealing with issues related to our aging parents. My father’s situation has been the most dramatic. But while supporting me and being my rock, my husband has had his own concerns and crises to deal with.
On top of that, we are parents of a bright, spirited four year-old girl. Who has been experiencing health problems. I am home full time with her. He is dealing with a new, long commute (his office recently moved farther from our home).
For our anniversary in February, I purchased a couple’s package from a local spa. With all the craziness going on, we only recently had the opportunity to enjoy it.
Years ago, when we were first dating, I took my husband to get a pedicure with me. He was resistant, saying, “Men don’t do that sort of thing.”
I retorted with, “Well, they certainly should!” And off we went. He loved it, and we have enjoyed more pedicures together since. This time, he was experiencing his first facial.
“What are they going to be doing to me?” he asked warily.
“It’s kind of like getting your teeth cleaned,” the esthetician replied cheerily.
Not an analogy I would have used.
But he did enjoy it, as did I, along with a much-needed massage for both of us. After which we sat in our spa robes sipping mimosas, eating lunch and talking. Not about our child. Or our parents. Or any of the stresses we’ve been dealing with. Just talking.
It was delightful. And I realized my husband and I are not taking enough time to care for ourselves – individually or as a couple. We need to start making it a priority.
Our situation is in no way unique. Everyone has stress. It is part of life. But if you don’t find ways to deal with it, stress will get the better of you.
A day at the spa will probably not be a regular thing. Fortunately, there are many other ways to remove ourselves from the craziness of life and reconnect with each other. And I am going to make sure we do.
What are some of the things to you do to take time for yourself and your relationship with your partner?